FOR PARENTS
What to do if you suspect your child may be a victim of sex trafficking in the Bay Area:
Do not at any time attempt to confront a suspected trafficker directly or alert a victim to your suspicions. Your safety as well as the victim’s safety is paramount. Instead, do the following:
- Dial 911 or your local law enforcement agency.
- Report a missing child to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children at 1-800-THE-LOST (1-800-843-5678).
- AFTER you have competed steps 1&2, email us at info@findingkids.org with (a) your child’s full name, (b) birth date, (c) photo, (d) your name, (e) phone and (f) address. Please tell us (g) which law enforcement agency you first contacted with your report and (h) the names of officers you spoke with.
We take tips very seriously.
1. BEFRIEND
To establish trust
Groomers peruse middle schools and high schools targeting young girls / boys who are most at risk: those with low self-esteem who are struggling with family, friends, money or schoolwork. They become best friends with the youth and stay good friends for months.
2. INTOXICATE
To control them
Sex traffickers make sure your daughter / son is having "fun" and feels a sense of independence. He readily supplies the child with alcohol and drugs, often getting the youth addicted so the person does not know what is happening to him / her.
3. ALIENATE
To separate them from family
The groomer criticizes parents, says their rules are unfair, muses child should run away and deserves better.
4. ISOLATE
To separate them from friends
The groomer introduces teens to new "friends" who are more "fun."
5. DESENSITIZE
To change a victim's moral compass
The groomer shows them porn, convinces them it's exciting, that parents don't understand their generation, etc.
6. CAPITALIZE
To make money off them
The trafficker physically lures the victim away from families and friends through brainwashing and coercion in order to make money selling the child for sex and to have sex with them themselves.
Note: It is illegal to file a false crime report. Doing so could result in up to six months in jail, a fine up to $1,000, or both.
A Child’s Perspective

Source: Thorn survivor insides study 2018; Polaris.